30. Reaction to sudden intrapersonal disaster (eg close family member suddenly dies).
Locking himself in the shop. It’s not a form of self-destruction but rather, self-rehabilitation. For Tony, building and coding and designing within the sanctity of his shop—where he understands what’s happening, has a sense of control—is like meditation. Neglecting his body’s needs is just a side-effect.
33. Concept of home and family?
To him, family is whoever sticks around and puts up with him—and, consequently, cares about him. He never had a stable home as a child or teenager, and by the time he was working his way through adulthood, his “family” (Obadiah) turned out to be no better (worse, actually).
Family, to him, is who he can trust without a doubt and who trust him in a return. Pepper, Rhodey, and the Avengers have begun to fill that void.
(And the tower is the closest thing to home he has.)
46. Do they express their thoughts through words or deeds?
Mostly deeds. Tony’s a materialistic person in that regard—he shows a “soft” side via the gifts he gives out to those close to him. Words of an emotional nature don’t come easy to him, so he relies on his actions to speak for him.
47. If they were to fall in love, who (or what) is their ideal?
He avoids love, actually, but someone who can handle him and his eccentricities, his habits, and Iron Man would be his ideal. (Pepper.)